Phillip is at a crossroad, “a point in which there is nothing to be said, nothing that can be done, and no one to blame for the position an individual finds himself/herself.” The Other Side of the Fire is a conversation Phillip has with an unnamed person when he finds himself between despair and hope- a crossroad.
“As a child you learned to find acceptable in yourself that which your parents, particularly your mother, found acceptable. . . As an adult you have come to find acceptable in yourself that which society says is acceptable. . . You have sought your salvation in what you do, or whom you’re with.” (page 63)
The Other Side of the Fire is in its’ purest sense a story of one person’s journey to redemption, but everyone who reads Jan R. Adams’ book will easily latch on to a thought or idea that directly addresses the same issues of where
At the age of eight, Aisha Praisso, alongside her great grandmother, became a victim and a rescuer of many during the Nigerian Civil War of 1967 between the Hausas in the north and the Ibos in the east. The tales from the war are sporadic and many of the stories are still left untold. Aisha, a survivor and self-proclaimed motor-mouth, would not broach the subject unless her life depended on it. But it did, and her whispers became loudly heard.
Born in Port Harcourt, Nigeria and raised by her maternal great grandmother, Aisha had a happy life until the Biafran War bulldozed its’ way into her her idyllic home and turned it into a torture chamber. Her innocence was stolen by a soldier while her guardian could only stand by and watch. Though a friend arranged an escape for her and her great grandmother, it was already too late for Aisha, she had been branded for a lifetime of abuse.
When things go wrong in an abusive relationship, she finds herself in a state of utter hopelessness after being arrested on charges connected to her boyfriend. It took her fourteen years to sort through her pain, including the self-inflicted ones and find the courage to tell her story. Fortunately, her luck turns for the better as she begins to let go and start to re-live her life again.
In the age of Obama, racial attitudes have become more complicated and nuanced than ever before. Inspired by a president who is unlike any Black man ever seen on our national stage, we are searching for new ways of understanding Blackness. In this provocative new book, iconic commentator and journalist Touré tackles what it means to be Black in America today.
Touré begins by examining the concept of “Post-Blackness,” a term that defines artists who are proud to be Black but don’t want to be limited by identity politics and boxed in by race. He soon discovers that the desire to be rooted in but not constrained by Blackness is everywhere. In Who’s Afraid of Post-Blackness? he argues that Blackness is infinite, that any identity imaginable is Black, and that all expressions of Blackness are legitimate.
Standing above the Crowd will help you rise up above life’s dramas, traumas, pettiness, negativity, and dozens more situational issues that tend to keep us down and hold us back from achieving our dreams and fulfilling our potential.
Standing above the Crowd is jam-packed full of success strategies that I’ve used throughout my life in the areas of athletics, business and community. All are very straightforward and easy for anyone to implement. There’s helpful advice from the team of wonderful people I’ve surrounded myself with throughout the years. I’ve always believed in a team concept approach, because we truly can’t do it alone. The success I’ve had in sports, business, and community involvement has all been because of people and principles I’ve learned from during my journey.
America’s most celebrated novelist, Nobel Prize-winner Toni Morrison extends her profound take on our history with this twentieth-century tale of redemption: a taut and tortured story about one man’s desperate search for himself in a world disfigured by war.
Frank Money is an angry, self-loathing veteran of the Korean War who, after traumatic experiences on the front lines, finds himself back in racist America with more than just physical scars. His home may seem alien to him, but he is shocked out of his crippling apathy by the need to rescue his medically abused younger sister and take her back to the small Georgia town they come from and that he’s hated all his life. As Frank revisits his memories from childhood and the war that have left him questioning his sense of self, he discovers a profound courage he had thought he could never possess again.
A deeply moving novel about an apparently defeated man finding his manhood–and his home.
Never in My Wildest Dreams is the story of a courageous journalist who helped change the face and focus of television news. Born to a 15-year old Louisiana laundress during the Great Depression and raised in the overcrowded projects of Oakland, California, Belva Davis overcame abuse, racism, and sexism to become the first black female news anchor on the West Coast.
Belva Davis covered many of the most explosive stories of the last half century, including the birth of the Black Panthers, the Peoples Temple cult that ended in the Jonestown massacre, the assassinations of San Francisco Mayor, George Moscone and San Francisco Supervisor, Harvey Milk, the onset of the AIDS epidemic, and the terrorist attacks that first put Osama bin Laden on the FBI’s Most Wanted list. Along the way, she encountered a cavalcade of cultural icons: Malcolm X, Frank Sinatra, James Brown, Nancy Reagan, Huey Newton, Muhammad Ali, Alex Haley, Fidel Castro, and others.
Davis’ absorbing memoir traces the trajectory of an extraordinary life in extraordinary times.
“I will be reading from and signing my new book Unchain the Pain: How to be Your Own Therapist at Marcus Books, 1712 Fillmore St. San Francisco, Ca. This event will take place Saturday March 31, 2012 at 6PM. It is an honor to be invited to this historic African-American Bookstore. Marcus Bookstores are the oldest Black bookstores in the nation. I hope to see you there!” –BL
1. Be willing to ask questions about your emotional pain.
2. Imagine that you are in a therapist’s office. Think about what questions she may ask you and then ask yourself these same questions.
3. Imagine that you are talking to a friend who is in distress. What questions would you want to ask her about her emotional pain in order to support her healing? Then apply those same questions to yourself.
4. You will learn to be introspective; feel unstuck emotionally; resolve long-standing emotional issues; discover your place of wisdom; be less depressed; be able to work through grief and loss issues; be less anxious; feel more confident and your self-esteem will increase; learn what it means to process your feelings.
5. Learn to overcome the obstacles that can help you become your own therapist.
6. Develop and nurture the self questioning part of yourself.
7. Exercise regularly. You will not only look and feel better, it will help you problem solve and be open to self-questioning because you will feel the freedom to do so!